Writing as a way of healing: Louise DeSalvo’s Writing as a Way of Healing: How Telling Our Stories Transforms Our Lives — Alison M. Gunn

 

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http://collaborativewriter.wordpress.com/2011/05/24/writing-as-a-way-of-healing/

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Louise DeSalvo’s Writing as a Way of Healing: How Telling Our Stories Transforms Our Lives opens with these lines:

“Writing has helped me heal. Writing has changed my life. Writing has saved my life.”

She says that writing has helped her friends, students, and other writers heal from loss, grief, or personal tragedy. Writers who have endured personal trauma turn to their diaries, or write memoirs, fiction, poetry, and biographical essays as a means of making sense of what happened to them.

In fact, I have found that these are some of the life events that too often prevent writers from writing in the first place; we don’t feel strong enough in the face of life trauma to be able to get past the depths of our pain. The interesting thing is, if you think about it, most writing is about something truly awful that happened to someone; or it refers to an emotionally turbulent time in someone’s life, or it deals with an otherwise difficult subject, hard to understand, even harder to talk about.

Writers who find a way to broach their pain enter into terrain that often threatens to pull them under if they don’t express the emotions in some way.

You don’t have to rely solely on writing, though; painting, music, dance, or theatre, are all effective ways to crack open your creativity. No matter how you express yourself, the goal is to allow yourself to have these feelings, to get them out: “If we begin to value our creative urges, we begin to value ourselves. If we deny our creative urges, we deny that our lives have meaning and significance.”

Yet we stop ourselves from expressing these truths, often for very good reasons. They are too painful, or too near, or too personal. Often, we can barely think about these things, let alone write about them, or tell anyone else what happened. For this reason, DeSalvo suggests having professional guidance to help you cope with your memories.

You can’t run the risk of re-traumatizing yourself without a professional there to guide you through whatever comes up. DeSalvo says “letting ourselves have our emotions without becoming overwhelmed by them as we work is an important (and all-too-often ignored) skill for us to develop,” but having our emotions is risky without someone who has traversed the terrain available during this process.

Because the piece of writing is “complete” when you read it (I’m thinking of Virginia Woolf’s To the Lighthouse, or Mrs. Dalloway, or Hemingway’s For Whom the Bell Tolls, or Fitzgerald’s memoir of his nervous breakdown at thirty-nine, The Crack-Up),it isn’t immediately obvious that these famous writers were once in pain, struggling with life experiences, using writing as their “sturdy ladder out of the pit.”

DeSalvo, quoting Fitzgerald, says during the process of writing The Crack-Up, this multiply published author, already famous in his own time, learned “he’d led an inauthentic life, a non-reflective, reactive life.” He had done “very little thinking”… rather than knowing himself, he had allowed others to tell him who he was. He admitted to always feeling confused, which lead to his desire “to go out and get drunk.”

If the writing is to be a healing experience, though, we must rely on “nonjudgemental, self-reflective witnessing of ourselves as writers” which helps us “not ruminate about our feelings (a destructive practice) or to engage in accusation or self-blame.” Instead, as I will discuss in another entry, DeSalvo suggests keeping a process journal which “invites us to focus upon defining ourselves as active and engaged, not as passive, helpless and hopeless.”

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