And the two shall become One Flesh — Ephesians 5:31 — the growth of the Church from Christ is the foundation of the spiritual marriage of Scripture

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http://biblehub.com/ephesians/5-31.htm

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http://www.reviewjournal.com/columns-blogs/steven-kalas/love-contractual-agreement-all-its-ups-and-downs

The people we love most in the world won’t merely remind us of our greatest loss. The people we love the most inevitably are our greatest loss.

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The dialogue needs to be  “reframed.”   You might as well be saying that you don’t want to go outside because every time you do, gravity reminds you that you have mass.

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This is what grief does. This is its nature. Grief spontaneously attaches itself to some context. Some circumstance. Some narrative.

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I would draw for him an analogy. I would tell him that he reminds me of spouses, parents and siblings whose spouse, parent or sibling has died in an accident. The eyes of the deceased are harvested and donated to a grateful transplant patient. And sometimes you see on a television magazine the story of how the grieving family will ask and desire to meet the transplant patient. They will stand, trembling, as their beloved’s eyes stare back at them, now in service to a stranger … who can never again be a stranger.

In the same moment, the grief of these people is bled and bandaged. There is, at once, the rude awakening of emptiness and an awakening of deep gratitude and pride.

I would tell this man to stand before his daughters just like that. To allow himself to be in awe before the mystery of what his love accomplished: “And the two shall become One Flesh … ”

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