Emotional conscription/”rescue me” (but after I’m done with your help, you can go to hell): “There’s a Fire in the Barn!” is an old trick, used in politics, debate, and commonly deployed as a way to control, manage, dominate or even exploit interpersonal relationships. It’s a neat trick, actually. Compelling. Seductive. Easy to miss. And, if you miss it, you get quickly swept away into its clutches. — Steven Kalas

 

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http://www.bing.com/images/search?q=images+energy+vampire&qpvt=images+energy+vampire&FORM=IGRE#view=detail&id=B04B9D3F826721168EF8113C9AF24C3D90A16847&selectedIndex=0

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http://www.reviewjournal.com/columns-blogs/steven-kalas/be-careful-about-goods-you-re-being-sold

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https://curtisnarimatsu.wordpress.com/2012/07/13/energy-vamps-croix-and-george-brine/

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https://curtisnarimatsu.wordpress.com/2014/01/18/hawaiis-greatest-modern-wayfinder-rev-hung-wai-ching-1905-2002-alter-ego-rev-reinhold-niebuhr-1892-1971-niebuhrs-immensely-popular-serenity-prayer-taking-as-jesus-did-this-sinful-w/

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Teenagers do this all the time. They bring an urgency/emergency wrapped in a tight time frame to the parents. “This (event I want to attend) is the chance of a lifetime! It’s a miracle, poured down from heaven that I should have this opportunity at all! And, if I go, (my life will be forever changed in some unrepeatable, positive way)! And, if I can’t go, (my life, as I know it, will be over)! AND … I NEED AN ANSWER RIGHT NOW!”

See? There’s a fire in the barn! If you say “yes,” the flames will be extinguished. Whew! That was close!

During my priesting days, the diocese I served began a search for a new bishop. A local priest was nominated. One Saturday morning, as I exited my car on my way to some ecclesiastical powwow, he jogged toward me. Jogged! Up until now, I thought this guy’s top speed was “amble.” Or “stroll.” But today he was energized. Enthused and animated. Urgent!

His arms moved as he spoke, painting the picture in a way that both alerted and implored: “This diocese has the chance now to show the church that we are who we say we are!”

Translation: There’s a fire in the barn! If you support my campaign for bishop, it will extinguish the flames.

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Hilo’s self-anointed know-it-alls’  Croix Bertelmann St. Louis High ’70 and George Tidal Brine born September 10, 1965  reprise energy vamp[ires] time and again  –
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Decent compassionate folks who try to forge filial/familial bonds with these individuals find themselves quickly depleted of emotion, spirit and vitality.
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~~~~~~It’s  having the life sucked out of you by Count Dracula.~~~~~~~
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Until they are surrounded by a critical mass of folks with consistent boundaries — and by boundaries here I mean an abject refusal to tolerate the absence of reciprocity and the demands of entitlement,  the willingness to surrender these people radically to the consequences of their behaviors — I don’t hold out much hope they will look at themselves. Ever.
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http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/01/21/how-to-deal-with-selfish-people_n_4494427.html?utm_hp_ref=gps-for-the-soul&ir=GPS+for+the+Soul

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tightrope dichotomy of trying to be The Observer (detached, staying objective) yet still having the very real human experience of being “driven crazy.”

It is personal when we are conscripted into someone’s crises of fear and smallness.

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It is personal to be deliberately moved about the game board of someone’s life as if we were no more than a lesser chess piece in the contest of ego-defense [fear] and self-importance/arrogance [smallness].

It hurts to be treated as a means to an end. The hurt is a sign of our health — our self-respect — not a sign that anything about us needs to be fixed.

And yet … it is equally a sign of self-respect that we make an effort to be The Observer.

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We do this, too, because we love.   [Croix & George are incapable to love all but themselves selfishly]

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Despite our hurt and disappointment, we want to try to understand, to attempt to answer the question of what’s really going on here.

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http://www.lvrj.com/view/mom-s-changing-stories-about-money-cause-hurt-confusion-138834794.html

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Self-compassion is NOT associated with Croix’ & George Brine’s easy insecure downsides of self-esteem such as ego-defense [fear] and self-importance/arrogance/social comparison/false-imitation-over- pride/narcissism [smallness].

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http://www.huffingtonpost.com/kristin-neff/self-compassion_b_843721.html

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Self-compassion recognizes that the human condition is imperfect, so that we desire to feel connected to others when we fail or suffer  [grief/loss]  –   instead of feeling stigmatized or ostracized and separate or isolated.

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http://www.livescience.com/17398-schadenfreude-affirmation.html

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“When you have low self-esteem, you will do almost anything to feel better, and when you’re confronted with the misfortune of others, you’ll feel schadenfreude [cruel gratification],”  van Dijk told LiveScience.  “In this study, if we give people something to affirm their self, then what we found is they have less schadenfreude — they don’t need the misfortune of others to feel better anymore.”

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“We know that it’s very good  to feel empathy  and sympathy for people, so if you feel schadenfreude without any sympathy or compassion for that other person, that would not be good,”  van Dijk said.     ”Our society thrives on compassion and empathy.”

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http://www.livescience.com/16650-narcissists-esteem.html

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Narcissists may seem to love themselves, but a new study finds that narcissistic self-aggrandizement may hide deep feelings of inferiority.

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You wonder just how oblivious, insensitive and narcissistic some people can be. Or maybe that’s redundant. Maybe the grip of narcissism is, by definition, oblivious and insensitive.
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An overprideful person “swallows one’s own stomach.” Such nature entails endless self-aggrandizement and vanity, and ensures incomprehensibility at the moment it compels authenticity/truth.

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It is true, the strength behind the leader is the person who mystifies me, the so-called unspoken one, like baby brother Andrew was to Peter [Bible].

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God has no use for pride, such that the meekest of the meek went on to lead, like Moses/Gideon.

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Look at King David. Lowly Nathan chastened shell-shocked David. Look at Joshua/etc. All unheralded/unsung heroes. Tremendous symbolism of “never judge a book by its cover.”

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“NeedToBeTheBest” has always been a cocktail of ego, insecurity, and envy.

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http://www.lvrj.com/blogs/kalas/Sorting_through_excellence_mediocrity_and_the_need_to_be_the_best.html

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the NeedToBeTheBest has NEVER been my friend. 

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The NeedToBeTheBest is like one of those ‘friends’ Tommy Shaw (Styx) sang about in the song Too Much Time on My Hands:  “I got dozens of friends, as long as I’m buying.”

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The NeedToBeTheBest is like the Queen’s mirror in Snow White and the Seven Dwarfs.

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Does she seem to you like someone with Inner Peace?

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Inner Peace is a marriage of self-respect and self-acceptance yielding contentment. 

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For me, NeedToBeTheBest has always been a cocktail of ego, insecurity, and envy.

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Absolute intolerance is always a sign of uncertainty and panic. Why do you have to hunt down everyone unless you’re weak [like Croix Bertelmann & George Brine]??  
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The Vatican doesn’t seem to care if its members’ beliefs are based on faith or fear, conviction or coercion. But what is the quality of a belief that exists simply because it’s enforced?  
   

“To be narrowing the discussion and instilling fear in people seems to be exactly the opposite of what’s called for these days,” says the noted religion writer Kenneth Briggs. “All this foot-stomping just diminishes the church’s credibility even more.”      

This is America. We don’t hunt heresies here. We welcome them. 

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like energy/psychic vamps Croix & George, so is Wall St. formatted/structured unilaterally to its advantage

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http://baselinescenario.com/2012/07/12/the-market-has-spoken-and-it-is-rigged/

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