Leading “a double life” kind of folks are quite literally dying to be found out, “accidentally” dropping clues everywhere even as they cover their tracks (e.g. Eliot Spitzer). — Steven Kalas

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Eliot Spitzer

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http://www.reviewjournal.com/columns-blogs/steven-kalas/camera-hungry-tales-double-lives

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http://www.reviewjournal.com/steven-kalas/spitzer-classic-case-wanting-get-caught

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http://www.reviewjournal.com/steven-kalas/affairs-may-not-be-evil-are-horrible-destroyers-marriage

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http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Eliot_Spitzer_prostitution_scandal

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The voice mail is from a producer of a new “docudrama” series. Docudrama, I learn when I call back, is the next evolution of reality television.

Docudrama explores the lives of real people and real issues. As opposed to mere reality television, which is content to film the banalities of, say, a family of bearded brothers who make duck calls and have strong, negative religious opinions about homosexuals. Or people fishing for tuna. Or crabs. Or walking around naked in a wilderness without food or water (but followed around by people with cameras who are wearing clothes and probably brought lunch).

Don’t laugh. I saw a life-size cardboard cutout of one of those duck-call brothers in Wal-Mart the other day. He’s famous. For what, exactly, I’m not sure. But that’s what this culture has come to.

The new series wants to explore the lives of people who are or once were leading double lives. Clandestine relationships. Compulsions/addictions. Crime. Hidden identities. Why do people do this? When, if ever, do they tell the truth? Do they want to tell the truth? Is there some kind of “rush” associated with conning the world, or at least conning close friends and family? Is it driven by power? Or shame?

The producer is calling me because she stumbled across a Human Matters column wherein I responded to a married woman talking about her longtime affair with a married man. The producer wonders how often I work with Double Lifers in my private practice, and whether I know someone I might refer for the new show.

“Yikes,” I say. And, to her credit, the producer is very sensitive to my ethical conundrum.

Confidentiality is holy ground for me. A well-developed psychic muscle. Believe it or not, I myself don’t immediately remember every dark confession made in session, preferring to focus on the hope, healing and new life for which my patients reach so courageously.

In short, I can’t imagine myself ending a session by saying, “Say, would you like to confess your double life to your spouse and family on television? I can hook you up.”

Still, perhaps some people want to tell their story. Need to. And, sometimes, for some people, maybe telling the story in public is useful, powerful and cleansing.

I tell the producer what I think.

Human beings, each, are contradictions. This is the nature of the human heart. All of us are, in cycles, at war with our instinctual selves. Sometimes we win the war. Sometimes we don’t. And none of us tell every detail of every war.

It’s impossible to reach middle age without some things hidden. Secrets, I guess. The good folks at Alcoholics Anonymous are fond of saying, “You are as sick as your secrets.”

I get their point, but they overstate the case. The saying should read “Some secrets keep us sick.” That is, truth to whom the truth is due — yes! Confession in carefully selected, faithful relationships — yes! Other secrets should rightly remain secret. Truth-telling is a much more serious, complicated and rigorous moral discipline than mere boundaryless exhibitionism. It is immoral to tell every truth to every/anyone.

The producer’s call makes me think about the fuzzy lines between privacy (a good thing), discretion (a classy, well-mannered thing) and leading an outright double life. A man who privately revels in a co-workers eye-popping cleavage might not share his revelry with his wife, because he’s being discreet. But a man with two wives and two families in two different towns, each unknown to the other, is leading a double life.

There is a line between those two things. Where is it?

Leading a double life is taxing and costly to the soul. Many Double Lifers are quite literally dying to be found out, “accidentally” dropping clues everywhere even as they cover their tracks.

Perhaps telling many people different fragments of truth, thus preventing anyone from knowing the whole truth.

Do you need to tell your story? Well, now I have the name and phone number of a producer who wants to help you do that. On television. “We are able to preserve the anonymity if the person does not want to reveal their identity, and we are also able to re-enact the past if this person’s secret has already been released but they feel their experience needs to be shared with a mass audience.”

Ah, but here’s another fuzzy line. Hiding a double life can be deadly. But undiscerning, radical exposure can be deadly, too.

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Japan’s cultivated modesty is but a double life time-warped by the worst of Western archetype (ethnocentrism/overpride/avarice/envy/rage)

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http://www.bing.com/images/search?q=japan+xenophobia’&qpvt=japan+xenophobia%27&FORM=IGRE#view=detail&id=5B2A53FF4DF9CF489E2CE4F63D7953FCB19D285C&selectedIndex=54

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http://www.bing.com/images/search?q=japan+xenophobia’&qpvt=japan+xenophobia%27&FORM=IGRE#view=detail&id=E1717A484293E9E271C4267B44049A86B2EB704F&selectedIndex=23

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https://curtisnarimatsu.wordpress.com/2013/08/24/yeah-so-called-technically-superior-japans-ethnocentric-imperial-master-race-hubris-the-latest-leak-was-another-example-of-how-tepco-has-repeatedly-failed-to-acknowledge-problems-it-co/

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https://curtisnarimatsu.wordpress.com/2013/05/08/japans-homogeneitypure-blood-master-race-mentality-only-in-the-past-two-decades-has-japan-acknowledged-some-of-its-past-brutalities-including-medical-atrocities-and-use-of-poison-gas-as-well-as/

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https://curtisnarimatsu.wordpress.com/2013/08/01/neo-nazi-master-race-superiority-pure-blood-nipponese-japan-finance-minister-taro-asos-revelations-about-his-neo-nazism/

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http://www.bigislandchronicle.com/2010/03/24/dispatches-from-curt-%e2%80%94-wwii-imperial-japan-jingoism/

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http://www.bigislandchronicle.com/2009/05/14/dispatches-from-curt-%E2%80%94-paradox-imperialism-like-an-adolescent-hilo-drinking-water-the-ever-dominant-lusoportuguese-hypocrisy-joseph-b-lightfoot-and-human-nature-good-bad/

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http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nihon_Shoki

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http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Amaterasu

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Puffed up Cliff Livermore, humble Christian mystic George Gomes

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Cliff said  –

“Please share my healing prayer requests as Liz Bishaw, Violet & Calisto Mateo, & Curt have all witnessed Christ’s healing power (including Cliff’s healing 50 yr. old Chinese woman Hae-bee’s broken arm witnessed by Curt) and deeply love Christ.  Also,  they have a deep burden for true revival in these islands — manifestations of our Lord’s healing Grace and power here on the Big Island.  As you know, Louisa stands in faith in Lord God.”    (End of statement)

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Book of Esther (4:14)  —    Mordecai reminds Esther:   If you’re not willing or able to be used for good by God, God will pick someone else who shall do God’s work.

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Help includes standing in the gap (Ezekiel 22:30), so to speak, however absurd & tragic it appears (reckless risk of raising false hope/expectation).    Cliff stands in the gap.

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 There’s a big difference between carrying a cross (Luke 9:23) and being crucified on one  — namely,  nails.

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Being crucified with Christ means to nail thru one’s soul to the point of death (of sinful self).

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Spirituality is meant to explore all the unattractive inner realities as well as to recommend glittering ideals.    

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The unattractive inner realities apply to us all, including glittering Cliff.

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Spirituality is not  meant to provide uplift to confirm people’s prior ideological assumptions.*Spirituality says “Think! Feel!”  —  not  “You’re right.”

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Thank you, Pastor Robert Gomes, for exposing our unlovely reality — and offering a right option  — lest we disregard the foretell of the Inferno (end days).

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The point is we are to move beyond feeding milk to the lambs  —  to feeding the sheep solid food.
Heb. 5:12-14 & 6:1-3  Anyone who lives on milk, being still an infant, is not acquainted with the teaching about righteousness. Solid food is for the mature, who by constant use have trained themselves to distinguish good from evil.
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Therefore let us leave the elementary teachings about Christ and go on to maturity, 
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…  the foundation of repentance from acts that lead to death, and of faith in God, instruction about baptisms, the laying on of hands, the resurrection of the dead, and eternal judgment.
What then is solid food?  It is training in righteousness so that the sheep can be fully equipped, able to stand in the day of testing.
2 Tim. 3:16-17  All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness, so that the man of God may be thoroughly equipped for every good work.
Pop psychology and worldly methodology do not feed sheep.  They must be fed on the written Word of God (responsibilities) as it is exegeted properly and applied by the Holy Spirit.  
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 Extinguishing distinction  — the self — applies to us all, including distinctive Cliff.

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Like Apostle Paul (completing –the Word of God — ministry), Pastor Robert Gomes does not play church, so to speak  — but instead avoids “natural thinking” presumptions (fleshly overpride/vanity/envy/jealousy) by stepping out (as Jesus did) in the world and taking risks of harm (by saving lost souls and those possessed of the spirit of unbelief) as the tests which need to be met in our authentic walk in Christ.

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Pastor Robert Gomes knows the truth about men and flesh  — born lost — and thus Pastor Robert is deemed alarming and dangerous to religious Christians (milk of the Word as opposed to righteousness of the Word) who cherry pick verses even to longtime “walking/waking dead” disciples  —  to sugar coat sin (forgiveness means that I can sin and sin again and again) and repentance (just say I’m sorry  — no need to extinguish our old self/natural ways) and Satan himself (die and go to heaven   — death, physical/spiritual —  itself is not the eternal fate for lost souls).

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being human   — honest frailty is inherent in our DNA

Cliff emboldens on being everyone’s Exhibit A of redemption.    Cliff does not want to be everyone’s pagan fairy tale  — where miracles manifest, then belief in the superhuman takes hold.   Drama’s correct endpoint is love forevermore springwelled by faith (Jesus’ blood of our new creation/Jesus’ living water of God’s holy spirit e.g. 1 Cor. 15:10).   Faith, then signs.   Not the other way around — not signs, then faith (idolatry).

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Universal appealing narrative is about us  — it illuminates our own lives.  Narrative also discloses truths that shape or misshape our psyche.

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As such, Cliff Livermore’s narrative details the unconscious desire and dilemma to be liberated in self, as

Cliff falls into the bondage of self

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The bondage of self has no redemption.  

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Liberation in self gets out of the self and into Jesus. 

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Therein redemption abounds.

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When the human ego conscripts the language, the work and the mantle of self-respect, you start to feel really good and right about discarding people from your life.

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And then you can know that you were right, because you don’t have any friends at all.

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Self-respect and self-importance — not the same at all. But they can feel the same.

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Why can’t I be like you or in sync with you?

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Because then there would be no need for a me, just you. 

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Cliff Livermore  reeks of excessive self-absorption and blowhard excretion.   Biblical Simon here fits Cliff’s description.

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http://www.lawofliberty.com/sermons/Resources/01-fromsimontopeter.pdf

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Cliff’s book editor lovingly chuckles     –

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Exactly!!    I also have compared Cliff to Simon Peter.    We have to reel in Cliff, but Cliff is very good to repent and start over.

I am glad you are Cliff’s good friend!

Also that you question assumptions and ask us to see things through another lens.

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1.  I don’t give a rat’s ass (to whom you liken me in Scripture — ergo Simon Peter)!!
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2.  I don’t have an identity problem!!!!    (I belong to Jesus!!)

Cliff’s mind-blowing couplet (pair of sentences)  a la the great Alexander Pope really is the story of Cliff’s life.
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